I’m stealing a couple questions from the lovely Diane Comer at He Speaks In The Silence (one of my favorite blogs) because I thought they were good ones. She inspires me SO much and doesn’t even know I exist. I know there are many other ladies and mommas who feel the exact same way.
Where I would live if I could live anywhere in the world: Portland, Oregon
What I’m reading right now: The Historian. Yes, still
What I’m dreaming of doing someday: Starting a business, self publishing my book, being a CrossFit coach. It TOTALLY depends on the day!
What I’m learning: How to not beat myself up.. I don’t get up at a certain time, my son my or may not be dressed by noon. I check Instagram way too often. And sometimes – like today – I have ZERO motivation to do anything on my to-do list until 6 pm. Ugh.
What haunts me: the amount of time I am capable of wasting on a daily basis.
What I’m enjoying: being a mom of a singleton. However, my son is SO social. There is nothing he likes more than being with other people, babies specifically. I feel like he might need more interaction than I am giving him!
Photo by Leslie Fairman Photography
Why is it that for so many, a child staying at home with their parents being homeschooled is tantamount to brainwashing yet sending a child to a government run, government funded school 8 hours a day for 12+ years is not indoctrination? Obviously not all homeschool scenarios are created equal and neither are all public school scenarios. It still seems logically inconsistent to take this particular stance.
I suppose anyone who believes their government is a completely unbiased and moral source of information A) is the product of a government school and B) cannot be reasoned with because (see A).
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We wanted to go for an Americana theme with our children’s names. Originally we wanted to go the Latin route but our last name ends with S and Lucius Glass is a little over the top. ;) Americana names are a little rough because we have so much history readily available and associations are still pretty strong. But history, though ugly, is the father of us all. I’m a strong believer that names can and should be redeemed.
Here are few names I found in a short search that have easy PWN ties.
-Clark (again, duh!)
A few others that go on the Americana list though not necessarily limited to PNW include
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I guess I have to go there.
I think the term “mommy wars” is completely absurd. I understand why people use it. Some moms talk like they would die for their causes. But I hope I’m not the only mother or person else finds it slightly ridiculous and more than a bit insulting. I have opinions. Strong opinions that are rooted in my value system. I am not dropping bombs (figurative or literal) on moms who disagree with me and leaving their children orphans. I will suffer a fair amount of pain for some issues. (Hello, drug free child birth!) But not from you! Other issues I won’t suffer a paper cut for.
Yes, I feel that unless you are physically unable, you should breastfeed. I also think babies should be respected despite the fact that they aren’t born yet. They have shouldn’t be subjected to unnecessary drugs so that I can avoid a few hours of pain. There are exceptions to all these things. I don’t feel strongly one way or the other about vaccinations or the GMO/organic debate, issues for which some moms might take a bullet. Other moms refuse to post pictures of their kids online. Ok, great. That’s awesome that you respect your child so much! For us, that’s just not reality.
The point is, ALL of these things are opinions. You don’t like what I think? Who cares? I’ve done my research. You’ve done yours. Why do we have to start taking everyone else’s decisions to do things differently like it’s a personal attack? Why do we have to attack people who choose do things differently?
Here’s the deal. I’m not going to start a war. I’m not participating in war. I often make a racket; it’s just my personality to want to make a lot of noise. I want you to hear me. Just like you want me to hear you. I won’t necessarily respect your opinions – I’m just gonna be honest about that. But unless it’s my personal facebook page or blog, I’m not running around telling you how to give birth, what to feed your kid or when they can get shots.
My opinion is just that – mine. It should not make you insecure.
You should feel just as strongly that your planned induction and formula are the right choice for your baby as I feel that my intervention-free birth and breastmilk are for mine. Don’t make choices that you can’t support. If my options were formula or my son wasting away, I’d choose formula too!
Disagree with me? Cool. We can still be friends! I’m not sending anyone home in a casket. So don’t act like I’m a part of your downfall or a part of your war. Don’t imply that because I believe differently that I’m intentionally attacking your choices. There are no uniforms or tanks at my house. There shouldn’t be any at yours. Moms who drink soy milk and babies who were born via c-section are welcome at our house every day of the week!
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Where is the Emotional Guideline Handbook for raising children?
No, seriously. I need that.
From what I can tell, there are two camps. There are parents who confide emotionally in their children and there are those who refrain from engaging their children on any emotional level for fear of being emotionally manipulated by them. I know there are (there have to be!) also parents who have managed to dig out some middle ground, but as with everything in life, the extremes make the most noise and get the most attention. I understand the temptation to veer really hard one way or the other.
While I think “everything in moderation” is highly overrated (and frankly, stupid) I do strive to find middle ground in my parenting. For example, I’m not a schedule Nazi with Dillinger but I also work toward a general routine with him. I feel like there has to be balance in being an emotional safe haven for our kids while not allowing them as they get older to manipulate us.
While friendship is pushing it, I still want my son to enjoy being around me. I want him to feel comfortable confiding in me for as long as possible. It seems like self-sabotage to tell your kids you want them to like you, though. Any good parent has made peace with being the bad guy sometimes.
So if any of you see the handbook on balancing emotional honesty and support with your children, please send it my way!